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Does anyone else find it kinda… disappointing that wlw are generally really supportive of mlm centric lgbt movies and tv shows but mlm never seem to give two shits about wlw movies

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Misogyny

So one of my best friends/roommates is a mlm and after AGES of me watching mlm movies with him and him always recoiling at the idea of watching a wlw movie with me I finally was like “why won’t you ever watch a wlw movie with me?” and his response was that the only one he’d ever seen was Blue Is the Warmest Color and he was turned off bc of the long sex scenes. Which I guess is fair but also not the point of the movie and there are other wlw movies out there that don’t even have sexual content in them???

Anyway I got him to watch one with me, finally, and he enjoyed it. But he said something to me that kind of really upset me which was that he wasn’t attracted to women so he didn’t want to see them having sex, but I’m bi so it was obviously fine for me to watch mlm movies because I could get something out of it. And this really made me mad because like. When I do watch mlm movies it’s not…because of that? Like to imply that implies I’m fetishing gay men and it’s unfair, untrue, and quite frankly biphobic. Because when I do watch mlm movies it’s because it’s so relatable, because I’m drawn more to LGBT content and relationships than straight ones. And I also realized that I have so much internalized homophobia that sometimes it’s easier for me to see two men in love than two women, but that’s for another time.

The point I’m trying to make is that all LGBT content should be important to all LGBT people, even if it doesn’t apply directly to your subset of the community. And if you’re watching something LGBT for the sex that’s fine, but having LGBT content is about so much more than just that, and to imply that the only reason someone would watch something LGBT is just for the sex is just not true.

Tl;dr I think some mlm need to grow up and realize this community doesn’t just include them, and they can find something to relate to or at the very least support in other sectors of the community. And that includes LGBT media.