homoyasha:

silverhawk:

something that i despise that happens a lot in gay media is where gay character 1 cant come out to their family because of various reasons and gay character 2, who they’re usually in a long term relationship w/ at this point, says some shit like “youre ashamed of me…………..you wont even tell your family about us, about the fact you’re gay…………i dont think i can be in this relationship if you’re going to keep me……a secret…..” and its not called out as being manipulative/abusive as fuck like if someone says something like that to you, you need to get OUT of that relationship immediately

there’s also the trope where gay character’s friend gets mad at the gay character for not telling them they’re gay. like their fucking feelings matter more than the gay person’s safety and comfort. 

straight people really do not understand that we would never do/say these kinds of things to each other. ever. we know exactly how much these things hurt.