Apparently this isn’t a bad stereotype from sitcoms and that real women who do this exist.
It’s not just women, I’ve dated women and guys who do this. I’m not the kind of person who “fights for” anybody – if they say that they’re leaving, of course I’ll ask why and talk it through with them, but I’m not going to buy a bouquet and appear at their door at 3am to try to get something from them that they said they didn’t want to give. The amount of times that I’ve heard “If you really loved me, you’d fight for me.” and I’ve been like “Well, if I really respected you and cared for you then I’d want you to be happy, rather than wanting you to do whatever it is that I want you to do.” and they come out with “So, what, you don’t want to be with me?” and I’m like “It’s not about what I want. If I wanted somebody’s watch and they didn’t want to give me the watch, I wouldn’t just take the watch. This is no different.” and then they push and push like “Just tell me that you want to be with me and I’ll stay.” and I’m like “I’m not going to do that, I want you to do what will make you happy.” and then I get called a heartless psychopath who never loved them and will never love anybody… so that’s fun.
~ Vape
Just…don’t do this. This is bad. Communicate clearly, some people will think you actually mean what you say and others are struggling with social skills enough. If you want to stay, stay. Don’t say ‘no’ and expect someone to not respect your answer. Heck, why would you WANT someone to not respect your boundaries?
Stuff like this ruins the legitimacy of ‘No means no’ and #MeToo.
Respecting verbally expressed boundaries: the simple, morally required thing to do when people are telling the truth; a huge bullet dodged in the rare case that they aren’t.
Okay, I fully understand that using prisoners as unpaid labor is basically slavery and how badly this reflects on petty criminals or the falsely accused but….why exactly should I feel bad about convicted rapists being used for slave labor?
Because slavery is inherently wrong rather than conditionally wrong. It doesn’t go from evil to right based on who’s being enslaved.
That’s fair.
More importantly, if you have any use – any at all – from sentencing a person (I don’t mean rehabilitation being a net gain, but stuff like performing medical experiments on prisoners), it’s inevitably going to skew the judgement, even if it’s unconsciously: I should let the guy go on a technicality, but he’s obviously a real scumbag, and kidney transplants are rare, so…
Yeah. Why should you feel bad about convicted rapists being treated badly? Because for-profit prisons have been busted bribing judges to send them prisoners. Which means that at least some people “convicted” of crimes were convicted and sentenced only because it was economically advantageous to someone else – they would not have been treated that way otherwise.
Which, statistically, means some of them are innocent. Which is to say: Yes, some rapists walk free. But some convicted rapists are not rapists at all. Thanks to the decades-long FBI scam of claiming they had working analysis of hair to determine whether hair samples matched people (since debunked; at least one person was convicted based on hair that more modern science can prove came from a dog, not even a human being at all), we have estimates of bogus conviction rates ranging from 5% to 30% or higher, with “exonerated by DNA evidence” being a very common outcome for death row cases that get examined again with newer evidence.
But also: Even if they really did do the thing, even if they are really that bad, slavery stays wrong.
Bi girls realizing they’re lesbians? Powerful. Amazing. You’re not contributing to the idea that bisexual people “pick a side”, you’re just coming to terms with your attraction to women in its entirety. And that’s ok.
Lesbians realizing they’re bi? Wonderful. Beautiful. You’re not contributing to the idea that lesbians can be forced to like men. You are who you are. And you’re lovely.
If you think antisemitism doesn’t matter because of how small the total world population of Jews is, consider that antisemitism is the reason that the modern Jewish population is so small in the first place.
I read a statistic once that suggested that if you got rid of the Roman and Babylonian diasporas, the pogroms, the ghettoization, the expulsions, the executions and the genocides, there would be 350 million Jews in the world today. Instead there are about 14 million. Think about that.
For context the current population of the US id 326 million.
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