Aries: speaks without thinking first, impulsive decisions and actions, blunt opinions, can come off as rude or opinionated, easily offended, will definitely go off, restless and irritable
Taurus: probably didn’t understand or hear you the first time, hates trying anything new, is hard to change their mind, usually won’t listen to opposing views or beliefs, grudges, will hold an argument until the end of time
Gemini: can manipulate you to make you believe them, very talkative, needs to feel intellectually superior, the ultimate debater, easily bored or distracted, unpredictable actions and behaviors
Cancer: takes everything personally, remembers that thing you did on November 5th 2012 at 8:12pm, passive aggressive, will hint at their thoughts and feelings but rarely ever admit them, spaces out a lot
Leo: exaggerates stories and events, needs all attention on them, enjoys voicing their thoughts and opinions even if no one asked, dramatic, needs praise and recognition to feel comfortable and valued
Virgo: cynical, overworks themselves to make things perfect, too critical of themselves and of others, pays close attention to details and never the big picture, a bit petty at times
Libra: has a hard time speaking up for themselves, adapts their beliefs and views to the people around them, helps everyone but themselves, only sees their worth in how others view their knowledge, counsels and judges everyone
Scorpio: intrusive thoughts, remembers little things about others in case they need it for a defense mechanism, sadistic humor involving their trauma and issues, makes others feel uncomfortable because of their taboo thoughts and interests, jumps to conclusions
Sagittarius: always right even if they aren’t, very opinionated, has a superiority complex, can hold a debate until the other person gives up, can make themselves believe anything therefore making them a great liar, zealous
Capricorn: pessimistic thoughts, dull or apathetic tone of voice, needs to be in control of their environment, doesn’t really like people or socializing in general, overworks themselves to the point of exhaustion
Aquarius: scattered thoughts and ideas, moves from one subject to the next, tends to be jumpy and nervous because they have so much to say but cannot ever get everything out, cannot handle emotional conversations, anxious
Pisces: easily distracted, daydreams and spaces out mid-conversation, needs others to repeat their words to them, can create scenarios that cause them fear or worry, sensitive to criticism, prone to isolation
I do not know if this was just a pithy
response, but responses like this pissed me off so much I thought I was going
to start spitting blood when this Reddit thread first came around a few years
back, and every time this issue comes back. I tried to go to sleep.
But this kept running through my head, so here we are.
And this is addressed to all the redditors
with the hot take that these women were, indeed, just fun-hating, jealous prudes:
You really have no theory of mind when it
comes to women. You think they are just reactionary, shrieking, brainless, pearl-clutching
harpies who hate fun and are only ~jealous~ of their husbands going to
prostitutes. Marital rape was an oxymoron and the husband was within his legal
and physical bounds to do whatever he wanted, whenever he wanted, to his wife
and children. The women had no rights to property, to keep their own wages, to
hold a bank account, and there were few jobs for women other than domestic and
prostitute. Schoolteachers and nurses, aside from requiring education working
class women could not access, were paid a pittance, and in the former case were
required to be unmarried in many places. So the husband was well within his
rights to drink his family wages and leave his wife and children to starve in a
slum tenement, and beat them when they complained. Divorce was no practical
option, especially with children. The entire economic system was, and always
was, set up so that women could not survive on their own, to force them into
providing sexual access and domestic labor to men in exchange for sustenance.
This was the era before antibiotics. Condoms were
of poor quality and rarely used. (As if they could force their men to wear them in the first place; it would be a dreadful inconvenience for their poor dicks.) There was no cure for STDs like syphilis. These
STDs were not only ultimately fatal, in many cases, but caused untold misery the
whole way, and birth defects. And who is caring for the disabled child on top
of her other children? The woman. (Oh, and banish the thought of a safe abortion, or a way for the woman to control her fertility. She was constantly bred because the husband either wanted those children or wanted sex and there was no effective birth control.) The husband would carry STDs from the
whorehouses and give them to their wives. Stopping their husbands from
frequenting prostitutes was not merely an issue of jealousy—it was a matter of
existential survival for these women. Or a way of preventing themselves from becoming
penniless widows. And they knew that most of the prostitutes were not ~independent
working women~ in that era but exploited women, the worst thing you could
become. What awaited you if you stepped out of line. They thought making
prostitution illegal would liberate these poor creatures.
What were women to do? Speak about their sovereign rights? To
speak plainly about the remedies—economic sovereignty, sexual freedom, the
right to divorce and custody and education and standing—would get them laughed
at by men already pissed they had just gotten the vote. So they had to focus on
proximate causes: get rid of the alcohol, get rid of the whorehouses. A paltry,
palliative measure, but what else could they do? They had to dress their
concerns in the raiment of religion, one of the few acceptable fields women
were allowed. Women were tasked the stabilizing force in society, the ones to
marry off unstable, angry young men, absorb their violence, ‘settle’ them and
force them to work a job, and produce the next generation of labor. And with
that came their tasking to be the civilizing force, at that time inextricable
with Christian morality. But there was a material reason behind their proselytizing—there
always is, if you look closely enough, behind *anybody’s*. Sure, there were holy-roller
true believers, but I bet the majority of women (and I must so bet, as history
has seen to it their voices are lost) just wanted the beatings to end and food
on the table, and relative safety from debilitating disease. I bet this because
I see women as rational agents. Humans in an impossible situation, with no
voice, living with their captors.
The factory jobs available to men were miserable, back-breaking
labor, and hardly paid. This was the tail end of the era of radical labor
rights movements, but there was a lot of misery, and those movements were eventually
shut down, especially with the economic desperation of the depression. As it
leads to drug use now in desperate, hollowed-out, post-industrial communities,
so it led to drinking then. And disenfranchised groups have always found a
group even lower on the social ladder than themselves to take out their anger. Women
were always the punching bag and social safety valve. And a drunk, drugged population
is not in much position to organize politically. There were few diversions – no
television, no sports games, no entertainments – to mollify the working classes
after their drudgery, so the bar was an incredibly attractive option. Oblivion
was preferable to going back to the slums with screaming children underfoot in
a filthy, tiny shack and a pissed off wife. Her anger may have been justified,
but in the guy’s mind, she was just the shrew waiting to make his day worse.
And, to those guys with a shred of decency, there was the shame in being
reminded of how poorly his wages kept his family, how desperate and pointless
the struggle, how they were running to stay in the same desperate place with no
hope of advancement. Ashamed, depressed men lash out, even against those who
they feel they have wronged.
The dispossessed men take it out on their women. This
always, always, always happens.
Prohibition did not work. We know that now, with the power
of hindsight. And the social fabric is utterly different, now: while women are by
no means liberated, they can hold property, they can keep their own wages and
assets, they have rights to their children, they can obtain education and jobs.
Divorce from an alcoholic husband without landing in the gutter is a
possibility. But to advance the narrative that prohibition was started by a
bunch of fuddy-duddy no-fun busy-bodies who hated the idea of anybody having a
good time is monstrous and shows only your contempt for women. You cannot know
the fear and desperation of being trapped with a violent, alcoholic husband,
several children, pregnant every year from marriage to menopause, and listening
to your children crying with hunger while waiting for your husband to come back
from the bar. And then you must approach him and ask for money. And you have
nowhere to run. I wager you have never had to bury your own children dead of starvation and the diseases of poverty. There was nowhere for them to turn without you – orphanages a joke, these masses of children from these women who had no power to control their own fertility seen as labor at best and excess humanity, vermin, by most of society. And their alcoholic father would leave them to die while he drinks himself to death. So it’s you or nobody.
What do you do? The possibilities on the outside for you, a fallen, divorced
women, would be prostitution or penury. But you have one bit of power, now – you can vote. And women as a class share your interests. You would be shut down campaigning for full human rights, but if you dress your concerns up in religion, there is a chance.
Of course, a hundred years in the future, men will use this as an example of how as soon as women are able to vote, they ruin everything.
Andrea Dworkin’s Right-Wing
Women is a brilliant and deeply-researched work on the phenomenon of the religious,
conservative woman, and addresses why women are often the enforcers and lieutenants
of religious morality and social conservatism, when it benefits them least. It
is not because they are small-minded cunts with small spirits, any more than
men on the average. There is a material and strategic reason, and the
temperance movement is a perfect example of this. They are making a bargain
within the confines of the tiny shred of power they are given.
And ask, always, before you condemn a group of women as a
bunch of no-fun brainless shrieking reactionaries because they want to take
away your toys: what material, rational reason might here be? Give them at
least the dignity of being considered rational agents before you condemn.
i mean obviously the number one rule of writing is “just write” but that’s a bit meta. when you get down into WHAT to write, here is my personal before-anything-else first rule of how to do the fiction thing:
never start with your viewpoint character being bored.
i see it all the time. complete beginners will actually go ahead and write “so-and-so was bored” as a first line. after a few goes, we graduate to “it was a day like any other.” we must outgrow this completely. if it really was a day like any other, you wouldn’t be writing about it, i should hope, so that’s non-information; or else you’re genuinely going to make your reader sit through a lot of boring routine before getting to the good bits.
like the song says, “if you’re bored then you’re boring.” you don’t want to bore your reader. so go ahead and write something interesting. even if it’s the only interesting thing that’s ever happened to this character, start with it.
wlw are fine as long as they’re ‘fun’, ‘fluid’, ‘don’t like labels’ and men can still jerk off to them. but as soon as they have masculine energy or they’re lesbians who are confident and proud of their lack of attraction to dudes, they’re bad. that’s why 95% of wlw we get in media are still feminine and conventionally attractive (and white) and hollywood is now obsessed with this ‘hot woman who apparently likes other women but let’s not put labels on it’. because it’s fine to show wlw as long as men can still be attracted to them!
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