gingerhaole:

interestingly-pale:

katchan00:

home-is-where-the-wifi-is:

dlanadhz:

• Bras last longer if you let them air dry. Don’t put them in the dryer.
• If you have a problem with frizzy hair, don’t dry your hair with a towel. It makes the frizzies worse. (I recently read an article that said to use a t-shirt? I brush mine out and let it air dry.)
• Whites wash best in hot water. Everything else can be in cold – save on your electricity bill.
• You can kill 99.9% of germs in a sponge by putting it in the dishwasher for a cycle or by microwaving it for 2 min (be sure to make the sponge damp before microwaving and to put a cup half full of water in with it and please DO NOT squeeze the sponge until it has cooled off)
• Airing out your room/house and letting sunlight in every so often can decrease the number of household pests like silverfish and ants.
• Black underwear is best during your period as stains are less likely to be visible.
• To save money, put aside 10% of each paycheck into a savings account. It’ll add up.
• Unless your hair has something on/in it (like grease or mud or something), using conditioner first can actually be the better choice. The conditioner holds in the good oils that help you hair look sleek and beautiful, which shampoo would otherwise wash away.
• Speaking of shampoo – if you have long hair, washing just the bits that touch your scalp is generally enough. The rest of your hair gets cleaned with just the run off from your scalp.
• If you put a tampon in and it’s uncomfortable/you can feel it, you didn’t do it quite right. A properly placed tampon is virtually unnoticeable by the wearer.
• Apply deodorant/antiperspirant a couple hours in advance of when you need it. This gives the product the chance to block your sweat glands. Using deodorant just before going somewhere where you’ll sweat (this means walking outside for people in high humidity places) results in your sweat washing the deodorant off and starkly limiting its usefulness.
• After running the dryer, use the dryer sheet from that load to brush out the lint catch – it gets everything off in a fraction of the time it’ll take you to get it clean with your bare hands. Paper towels also work well.
• Wash your face everyday, or as often as possible. Forget which brand of cleanser is best. Just washing your face everyday will guarantee you clearer skin. And do you best not to pop pimples, as tempting as the urge may be.
• Fold laundry asap after taking it from the dryer to avoid wrinkles. This may seem obvious for dress shirts and silly for things like t-shirts, but you’ll notice the difference even then once your shirts stop looking like unfolded paper balls.

To all the kids whose parents couldn’t help you with this kind of stuff

Addition: the natural acidity of a vagina can bleach the gusset on darker underwear. It’s perfectly normal.

i did not know some of this stuff, so useful!

The best thing you can do to keep your skin clear (aside from washing) is to frequently change your pillowcase. Throw on a fresh one every day if you want. Get nice cotton pillowcases at Ross.

feynites:

weconqueratdawn:

ardwynna:

I wonder where the break happened that such wide swaths of younger fans don’t grasp fandom things that used to be unspoken understandings. That fic readers are expected to know fiction from reality,  that views expressed in fic are not necessarily those of the author, that the labels, tags and warnings on various kinkfics are also the indication that they were created for titillation and not much more, please use responsibly as per all pornography. The ‘problem’ isn’t that so-called ‘problematic’ fic exists but that some of the audience is being stupid, irresponsible, at worst criminal, at best not old enough to be in the audience to begin with. And that’s on the consumer, not the author who told you via labels, tags, ratings, warnings and venues what their fic was about and what it was for.

I can’t stress enough how important this post is

I’m not totally sure, but I would guess that this shift in attitude ties in heavily with fanfiction’s shift in image over the years.

Back when I first discovered fanfic, it was still in the ‘dirty little secret’ category of hobbies. It would have been utterly laughable to go ‘this fic is immoral’ because fanfic was like the black market of literature. It would be like going to an opium den and going ‘um you guys I don’t think this is healthy’, people would have just chased you off, because clearly, if you’re bothered by this kind of stuff then you’re a liability. Wouldn’t want you reporting everyone’s fansites to Warner Bros or something, right?

Obviously, that time was not a great time for fanfic, in a lot of respects. But it was a different attitude that carried different default expectations, too.

Nowadays, though, fanfiction is less ‘dirty secret’ and more ‘subversive literary activism scene’. Which isn’t to say that image is 100% accurate (or inaccurate, either) but that’s the shift in the community attitude. Whereas once it was considered fair to go ‘I don’t support homosexuality in real life, I’m writing naughty bad stuff in this dark corner of the internet’ on your fic’s disclaimer, now it’s more common to see ‘my slash fics prove I’m an LGBT+ ally’. Both attitudes have major issues, obviously. You can’t even say one’s more honest because half the people who used to make the first assertion were just lying to try and avoid getting angry hate mail, and for some people, exploring certain concepts through fiction really IS the gateway to better social awareness.

But presenting fanfiction as something that’s virtuous instead of ignoble has changed the nature of the hate mail as well. Now instead of it being pointless to throw the ‘it’s immoral’ argument around, it’s effective. So people do it all the time, even when it’s self-contradictory, hypocritical, or disingenuous. 

(On top of that, it’s probably worth noting that we basically teach kids to judge stories this way, and have been doing so for a while now. Like, in children’s literature, every story has a lesson, and the contents all have to be filtered for ‘inappropriate’ factors that might offend parents. We have way more teenagers who are just openly teenaged in fandom too, like, when I was a teenager, I had to lie about my age to get into a lot of forums, and that made me wary of criticizing stuff because I didn’t want to seem immature. So there are a lot more teens actually just being themselves and not holding their tongues and that can, at times, make it seem like fandom as a whole is suddenly full of people who don’t understand how to have mature conversations…. because they don’t, because they’re literally still maturing. Go figure.)

feynites:

Black and White Morality: The good guys do good things. The bad guys do bad things. The good guys need to triumph over the bad guys to stop them. 

Grey Morality: The good guys sometimes do bad things, or good things for bad reasons. The bad guys sometimes do good things, or bad things for good reasons. The motives for conflict are called into question as a major component of the narrative.

Morally Ambiguous: There may be protagonists and antagonists (or not), but there are only characters, no designated heroes and villains (even if some characters are utterly reprehensible or mostly virtuous). Whose side you’re on probably depends more on your perspective than the story’s.

Reversed Morality: The bad guys do bad things, but we’re telling the story from their perspective rather than the good guys’. They are still bad, however.

Moral Dissonance: Experiencing, from the audience, severe disagreement with the morality espoused by the story’s narrative (i.e. the good guys are supposed to be good, but your assessment of ‘good’ and the author’s are not aligned). 

muchymozzarella:

I met a fan artist from the Hobbit fandom who’s 40+ years old, who sent me a postcard a couple of years back for Christmas with her art on the card. 

When I was about 14, I once befriended, and lost contact with, a 40 year old woman with a full head of gray, curly hair, who was one of the best known Good Omens fan artists of the community. She had apparently been in and out of asylums for years, and I worried for the longest time. I even sent her an email when I was around 18, asking after her well-being. But then she resurfaced when I was 21, here on tumblr. It was one of the greatest and most memorable fandom experiences I’ve ever had. 

When I was 15 and using slurs I didn’t know were slurs, 30+ year old LGBTQ+ comics fans on scans_daily patiently but firmly corrected me. I felt mortified, but they never attacked me or treated me as anything other than a dumb kid who made a mistake. 

I have a long time friend of close to a decade, who was late twenties when I met her in the comics fandom, and I was a teen.

OLDER FANS ARE CRUCIAL TO THE SURVIVAL OF FANDOMS. Not ONLY because they’re literally the ones keeping fandom afloat (AO3 wasn’t created or maintained by kids, let’s just say), but because older fans generally don’t attack or bully or fuck up a fandom by being aggressive or volatile or overzealous, destroying any enjoyment of a medium. 

Single women, married women, LGBTQ+ fans, all in the range of 30-60 years old. I’ve met all sorts of older fans, from when I was 12 on deviantart to now, in my mid-twenties, and not a single one of them has ever hurt me or treated me like dirt. I’ve always felt safer with older fans than with younger ones, because of the people I’ve seen harass, accuse, doxx, bully, and generally engage in harmful behaviour in this fandom, they’ve largely been in the 13-21 age bracket. 

Obviously most young fans aren’t like that, but the toxicity is palpable regardless.

@younger fans, if somebody older in a fandom acts in a creepy way, then feel free to avoid them, block them, report them.

But this apparent DELUSION that younger fans have that older fans are “creepy” just for existing needs to be eradicated. Just. Stop. You do not deserve the fandoms they built, they maintained, they keep alive in themselves and all the younger fans they took care of, if you cannot RESPECT THEM. 

flamefriendsshipped:

fandomlovingweirdo:

flamefriendsshipped:

flamefriendsshipped:

So my boss once robbed a museum to prove a point and honestly, I think she is my new role model. 

If this gets notes I’ll tell the full story

Storu

Many years ago, my boss was working at this museum and they had these original Churchill documents on display. These documents are worth millions of dollars… The only thing separating the public from these documents was a sheet of glass secured with 4 philips head screws. Seriously. No security guards in the room, no cameras, just an easily removable piece of glass. 

My boss pointed out the security concern, but she wasn’t taken seriously, so she took matters into her own hands. 

She bought a ticket and  pretended to be a guest. She entered through the main entrance with a huge drill clearly visible on her belt, went straight to the documents and opened the case with the drill. (While  wearing gloves,) she removed the documents, put them in a folder, reattached the glass, and walked out the main exit.  Literally no one even questioned her.

 She immediately went around to the back of the museum, entered using the staff entrance and went straight to her boss’s office.  She dropped the folder on his desk and said “I just stole these in 15 minutes“

Once he was done being mad at her, he listened and the museum increased security. 

extrasassylampshade:

dont-taunt-the-octopus:

me: [at work, ringing up two parents and their toddler who’s sitting in the cart trying to get their attention]

toddler, quietly, waving hands around: [incomprehensible]

mom: what?

toddler, even quieter: [incomprehensible]

dad: you gotta speak up, bud

toddler, at full volume: FUCK.

this actually made me laugh out loud